Thursday, 22 September 2011

BOOK READING MEETS CLASS AT NSBS

In television programs and movies, I’ve seen group of individuals together reading to themselves. It’s called a book reading event. Often time when I see such scenes, I wonder why I would want to waste my precious time and let someone else read to me( at my age)? I use to perceive those who attend such events as jobless. Well on Saturday 3rd of September, I became jobless too (at least for a day).
A very good friend invited me to such a book reading event, first of its kind (I stand to be corrected). When I got the invite, I picked up my phone called Jenifer and asked her to convince me why I should drop my activities for the day to attend such. Dear Jenny did a good job of convincing me to attend.
So attend I did. The event held at the Daisy, somewhere on the island. Upon entry to the venue, I was greeted by the serenity of the environment which is a restaurant and I marveled at exquisite topaz floor and the lightings that made the interior décor so homely I couldn’t help but feel relaxed. The chandeliers hanging from ceiling were so lovely; it’s like one of those you only get to see in a palace. Oh! Did I mention I was greeted by a charming lady? Her smile was so radiant that I thought she was another set of exquisite light (she was to be the host). She bid me welcome and offered me a table to sit. There I sat and set up my laptop which I had brought along just in case I got bored. IMG_0083.JPG
As other guests walked in, music of songs of the saints by Francis Afunuro began playing from one of the speakers in the room. Then I spotted Jenifer, she said she was surprised I came because she really wasn’t expecting me to attend after putting up such a fierce fight upon invitation. When everyone was sitted the lady who greeted me introduced herself as Mrs Bola Essien Nelson- an author; and I found out she was to be our host.
I am not the type that likes poetry; I mean I won’t go out of my way to get one not to mention writing one. However, when the authors scheduled to read to the audience began reading their piece, I began to appreciate the painstaking process of putting each sentence together so as to ensure its coherence and flow.
As each author read his/her piece, the beauty of the piece was painted so vividly with words so perfectly selected that it made hairs on my body alert. Some pieces read were the type that created a funny impression; one that every individual must have experienced while growing up. Okechukwu Phills- one of the authors describes one of his encounters with his mum in his book ‘How Stupidity Saved My Life’. “ I was in our compound on a sunny afternoon tending to our dogs when I heard a loud scream cutting through the air and silencing every other sounds ‘Ooookeeeyyy’; then I heard another, this time the dogs I was playing with scampered, whimpering away into various corners. I realized it was my mother and immediately I knew I had done something wrong’. At this point the whole room was ricking with laughter as everyone could imagine vividly the gravity of Okechukwu’s offence.
While some pieces made us laugh, some made us sober and quiet deep in thought. The atmosphere was definitely electrifying and quite sumptuous too as waiters brought in well baked snacks and exotic drinks to keep us refreshed.
Over all, it was definitely an experience to remember and as I stepped out finally after the closing prayer, I went over to my friend Jennifer and said a resounding thank you to her for bringing me out to such event. Told her I had a nice time and she should inform me should another of such comes up.

Saturday, 12 March 2011

ASSUNDER




ASSUNDER
        In science, it is said that like charges repels and opposite charges attracts. Socially, my area of strength is usually your area of weakness. I met them both as acquaintances. With time, they became inseparable.  Like the snail and its shell, where you’d find one, the other isn’t too far behind.
          I studied them. I realized they both were different yet, alike in divers of ways. No wonder the saying: show me your friend and I’ll tell you who you are.
          What brought discord, I dare not tell but seeing the two apart has become a hard sell. Two wrongs is said never to make a right but with what might would they continue this plight?
          Both adamant to yield in meekness, forgetting erring is human and forgiving is divine. Odd watching them disregard each other, like maggots to salt they seem to act but can a bee ever ignore the sweet taste of nectar?
          I wonder why birds of a feather would seem so asunder. I realized it is necessary to disagree in order to be in accord; as two can never be one unless they be same.
          The power of two can never be overestimated, make amends and remain best of friends.

Saturday, 12 February 2011

DIVORCE AND EFFECTS



No couple goes into marriage thinking they will be the one who won’t make it to happily ever after. Certainly, on the wedding day, you would think you were promising a love that would last a life time. Now for reasons you may not fully understand, that dream seems shattered. As you try to understand the pain and figure out what to do, divorce may look like a way out. After all, you might reason that life is full of second chances. Perhaps you simply married the wrong person and that Mr. or Mrs. Right is still out there somewhere. You might think you were too young when you got married and that you never really loved your spouse. As such you convinced yourself it would be better than being alone. Or maybe you are hoping against hope that your marriage can be salvaged. But before you bail out of your marriage, look at what you’d be diving into. Most people are not really ready for the challenges of a post-divorced life.
HOW WOULD DIVORCE AFFECT ME?
Jude and Kemi tried to spare their children the details of a break up. Their marital problems were further complicated by Jude’s affair with his secretary in his place of work. But Kemi without a college education was forced to move back in with her parents where she continues to live for about 12years. At one point, she attempted to recover the N1.5million in the educational trust fund Jude had been paying over the years for their children but was only able to get N80, 000 barely enough to pay quarter of the bills that had been pilling up. Kemi’s story points out one all-too-real fact of divorce; post divorce families usually suffer financially. Recent studies show that women experiencing divorce face roughly a 30percent decline in their standard of living they enjoyed while married while men show a 10percent decline.
The consistency of this finding has caused one conclusion; however prepared for marital disruption women increasingly maybe, they are not prepared in ways sufficient to cushion the economic cost. And remember that divorce itself can be a financial hurdle. While some divorce proceedings are relatively inexpensive, the fees can soar. Each case varies, Lawyer S.A J of Jinadu & Jinadu chambers describes it this way; you can get a divorce for under N10000 per spouse in the fees charged if one is lucky and if both spouses and their lawyers are reasonable and fair. And this still doesn’t include what divorce does to the standard of living, having to pay for child support, or the expenses of visitation. But one really can’t even predict that either side can pull all kinds of stuffs in court that just makes both lawyers waste time until one client eventually run out of funds. Picture a case where the couples settle out of court eventually but then the husband would have to spend close to N100000 or more just to enforce the settlement agreement.
But there is more to life than money, there are many other areas where men and women are affected by divorce. Research done over 30years stipulates that divorce seldom leads to a better life. Consider the following,
·       Life expectancies for divorced men and women are significantly lower than for married people(who have the longest life expectancy)
·       A recent study found those who were unhappy but stayed married were more likely to be happy 5 years after than those who were divorced.
·       The health consequences of divorce are so sever that a researcher concluded that being and a non smoker is only slightly less dangerous than smoking a pack daily and staying married.
·       After a diagnosis of cancer, married people are most likely to recover; while the divorced are at least likely to recover, indicating that the emotional trauma of divorce has a long term effect on the physical health of the body.
·       Men and women both suffer a decline in mental health following a divorce but researchers have found that women are greatly affected. Some of these mental effects include depression, hostility.


Thursday, 10 February 2011

THE DREAM.

Arise, O compatriots,
Nigeria's call obey
To serve our Fatherland
With love and strength and faith.
The labour of our heroes past
Shall never be in vain,
To serve with heart and might
One nation bound in freedom, peace and
unity.

O God of creation,
Direct our noble cause;
Guide our Leaders right:
Help our Youth the truth to know,
In love and honesty to grow,
And living just and true,
Great lofty heights attain,
To build a nation where peace and justice
reign.

I pledge to Nigeria my country,
To be faithful, loyal and honest,
To serve Nigeria with all my strength,
To defend her unity,
And uphold her honor and glory,
So help me God.

Reading this reminds me of many things, including current issues in the Nigerian nation. Then I wonder, if our leaders today have ever taken time to examine the anthem and pledge they sang for everyday for many years through their primary and secondary school days.

I remember my elder brother saying 'as at 1993, he could still commute from oshodi to sango with N15', (its now a minimum of N100 maximum N300). I remember my dad saying then 'a litre of petrol was just N26. I'd asked myself time and time again how did it come to this? I wonder how we as a nation fall into such a state of degradation? As at independence, world power rated us as having more growth prospects than the likes of Malaysia, Jamaica, South Africa. Now those countries are far ahead of us.

So much that our leaders could do, yet the average Nigerian is living below 1 dollar per day. Child trafficking is still being done, the Nigerian child is still involved in under aged labour. The ones in school are inadequately equipped for the future, ignorant of what lies ahead. The average man can barley make ends meet. All because those steering the ship of this great but handicapped nation have decided to be selfish stead of selfless.

No more would we accept a bad check from our leaders, a check which has come back marked 'insufficient funds'. But we refuse to believe that the bank of justice is bankrupt. We refuse to believe that there are insufficient funds in the vaults of opportunity of this nation.

I want to remind our leaders of the fierce urgency of NOW! This no time to engage in the luxury of cooling off or taking the tranquilizing drug of gradualism. Now is the time to make real promises of democracy. There are those within the corridors of power asking our devotees of civil rights, 'when will you be satisfied?' we can never be satisfied as long as the average citizen is a victim of unspeakable horrors of police brutality. We cannot be satisfied until our corrupt leaders in public offices are brought to book. No, no we will not be satisfied until we can travel on our highway without fear of being robbed or killed. We shall not be satisfied until the extra-judicial killings in our society is eradicated.

I have a dream that one day, the current group of selfish leaders in our country would be no more... I have a dream that one day, our children would cease to be used for under age labour and trafficking. I have a dream that one day, power outage would cease to be normal in this country. I have a dream that one day, our elections would be free and fair and we would elect men and women of integrity, honesty, and good values into our public offices. I have a dream that these men and women are going to selflessly serve this nation and steer us to the land of promise.

I have a dream that one day, our economy would be strong enough to rival those of the international community. I have a dream that one day, our educational system would cease to be unstable and would become a positively referenced system to the international community. I have a dream that one day, our families would no longer live on the island of poverty in the midst of a vast ocean of material prosperity.

I write this today even though we face the difficulties of today and tomorrow, that one day this nation would rise and live out the true meaning of its creed. I have a dream that one day, the best of us would rule the rest of us.

God bless Nigeria.

Tuesday, 8 February 2011

Welcome friends.

When I was creating this page, I kept wondering why I was doing it. Though I obviously did not halt its creation, I later realise its creation is not only for my benefit. Its creation would allow others a view into my mind, comment, and as such we'd rub minds and learn from one another. To write is one thing, the challenge however lies with writing constructively. This page will address divers of issues, topics ranging from politics, sports, entertainment, relationship talks... Ahhh! The list is endless. So I do hope you'd be 'infortained' whenever you decide to drop by(which should be frequent). Thank you.